Sometimes A Makeover Is Not What You Need (Or Why wives should listen to their husbands or The problem with freckles and sexnotwork)

 

Before my first wife and I married I convinced her to dye her hair what I now like to call 'Aeon Flux' black.

Though it made her look sexy as all outdoors (at least to me) something about it wasn't right.

Maybe it was the freckles across her nose.

Maybe it was just her personality.

Sometimes a makeover is just not what you need.

 

We're big on the makeover.

Like a character in a Palahniuk novel, everyones trying to figger out who they are by changing who they are.

Remember Clay Aikens?

I wonder who he is?

Now the reason I bring all this up is because of something I read today about Jay-Z (Scrivs), Sam Sugar, and their blog experiment SexNotWork.

For those new to the program, here's what has happened so far:

Scrivs and Sugar decide to start a sex blog network. Since some 9rules folks were involved, some assumed that 9rules was about to do some sex blogs (um, not really a bad idea).

That wasn't the case.

Just some members of 9rules were getting involved in the sex trade sex network business.

Now as far as they got, as far as I know, was to the stage of hype.

They put up a website and started taking submissions.

After that the entire thing kinda disappeared.

It resurfaced again in this post by Matt of Blog Network Watch.

Scrivs then said that all the 9rules folks involved had abandoned the project.

Now like the nosy, parasitic, citizen journalist that I am (I do run a popular Angelina Jolie blog) I emailed Scrivs in an attempt to get some inside dirt.

He told me he's saving it for his blog.

Flash forward to right now.

Now I suspect (and I'm probably wrong) but suspect that some cold feet appeared once the idea of making money disappeared.

Do you really want the stigma of porn stuck on you while you're still trying to expand the 9rules site?

I'm not saying that's what happened.

But it kinda feels right to me.

Sometimes a makeover is not what you need.

Now my credit cards would prove that I got nothing against porn.

But I do have a problem with someone/thing/ or company not being who they really are.

In a world where people crave the authentic,

where we want proof not guarantees,

if you are not true to your core values,

(no matter how sadistic or mundane they may be)

you lose.

Not just customers.

But a piece of yourself.

And you can't get that back.

After I divorced my first wife the first thing she did was wash the black dye out of her hair.

We ran into each other years later in a child custody fight in a Tampa Bay courtroom.

She had her hair dyed back to Axon Flux.

I lost.

But sometimes a makeover is just what you need.

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